It has been two months in U.S……I have read a lot of blogs which says how people are really happy about this place……. I am gonna write this in a different way, in a way that I believe conveys what I am thinking. Yeah, I am demented. The confusion started a few days after I landed....
Why?
The first thing I hate here is those insane Indians who say “This is not the way it happens in India”. They start the comparison work in two or three days after their first flight journey. Ah, how clean the city is, how kind these people are, how good the goddamn (yeah, they learnt that word in two days) college is”. Frankly Speaking, I don’t give a damn about these people. I say they are demented. I say that they are plain rats who were waiting for a chance to compare their motherland to a country where x marries y,z,w and the son of X has to choose one of Y, Z, W as their mother. I know that it is a very crappy sentence, but that’s wat these people are. One of my friends jokingly commented “Every two years, they change their car or wife, if they are not able to change their wife, they change their car”. I am not complaining about these people. You say this to them, they will be proud, coz that’s their culture. The problem with us is…Yeah, I know we are all from a country that needs a Rang de basanti to show that we need to be patriotic. The problem is, I am not like that.
India club….
This is the place that made me look more confused, out of place. The first meet of the GT India club took place on a day when no one else was in college. The admission fees is 20$ here for the club. Since it was boring to see U.S figures all through the day, I thought I will go for it. I went to the admission counter and saw two girls (don’t wanna discuss their attire, vivek comedy than gyabagathuku varuthu…”pavam veetla romba panjam pola irukku)….They looked stranged to me…Even they should have felt the same about me coz I went a few steps back to look at the board as I was confused whether I had come to the right club. After reconfirmation, I went in. Confusion took me to such a level, that I asked my senior who they are. Machan avanga ellam ABCD da nu sonnar…….Now…that’s the first abbreviation that I learned here….
ABCD – American born confused desis
I have two questions……If someone is born in U.S, how can the fuck he be a Desi, more precisely, how can he be an Indian. Why is she sitting in the India club as its co-ordinator, I think probably most Indian students who come here get confused (just like me). If you give a name to someone, they give it back…here it goes..people who come here to study are called PIGS…..Poor Indian graduate students…….What a sarcastic term to look at people who bet their lives to come here and study……
I hate …I hate …ha ha……..Enough of cringing..I am bored.., here are a few things that I love here..
Patriotism: Nobody realizes this. Americans are the most patriotic people I have ever seen. I see a lot of people who have served the army for 10 years or so and had come to studies now. You scold them, they might not mind it. Try scolding their country; you will deport the next day.
Education system: Awesome, I should say. It makes me think, It makes me sweat, It makes me work hard and It shows me what it takes to be a student here……..and yeah…it makes me cook too…..
I love everything here… The problem is that I don’t want this to be permanent.
Sorgame enralum athu namma oorai pola varumaa………………………………………………………………
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Dude,
What ever you say is right.
The other thing that i noticed is that the Americans wish you even thou they do not know you, but the Indians will just keep staring and do not even bother to wish a fellow country man.
The other culture that is very very good when compared to other countries is the sports and games culture. That is the best thing i have seen in US as of now.
There is one more thing. The power of spending is very high here!
Lava
P.S: Try to avoid the offensive language in the blog.
Dude ...u stole the words from my mouth .... Wat the heck !!! I jus dnt understand wat fascinates Indians to settle dwn here ... I dnt say u dnt have anything gud out here ..... but jus sayin its not as gud as India ...
Arun
Thats a good one dude! Really enjoyed reading this one..firstly, it was a much improved blog than ur previous one in terms of thoughts!
Comin to the blog, nothing much to oppose this time around as u share similar sentiments to that of mine! I really hate these guys who talk ill of our motherland and compare each and everything with USA.
>Firstly, americans wish u good morning when we don't. It's simple dude..we are brought up that way. U try telling a hi to a gal on the road, u ll end up in a police station...say that to a guy and he ll think u r nuts!
>We stand in the queue to board buses...the guy who came first boards the bus first.. well..if they run 12 buses for 20 people, even people in India would do that. Population man.. in our place, we have 1 bus for 70 people..so adichu pudichu thaan yera mudiyum!
Like this, I can go on and on for many things..
>Indian club - I am actually not a fan of these things dude...in one sense, it is good! The problem with us is that, we go to USA, eat Indian food, convert dollars into Indian money, go out to Indian restaurents, watch Indian movies (mostly tamil dvds), read behindwoods.com, still read daily thanthi on the net..(telugu guys read e nadu newspaper everyday).. . It's good in one sense that u keep track of wat is happening at home..and most of us hang out only with Indians! and every American thing in a Indian way!
Why the fuck is this happening..as u right said, Confused Desis!!!
Either we have to live in India itself or adjust to the US culture when we reach there.. Atleast, u r okay da machan..u r a student there..student life is entirely different..u have more chances of socialising and getting some genuine friends..think of guys who are onsite for work! Once we reach home and take a laptop and sit in a sofa, there is not much difference between ourselves and a piece of shit!
The key is to accept the American culture..go out with them(its difficult I know)...enjoy the culture and be a part of it, of course not forgetting our values! Both the countries have their own advantages and disadvantages and once we start accepting them, we will really enjoy it wherever u are!
guess my comments are as big as a blog! but jus wanted to put it here.. i really enjoyed the blog..
gud one dude..But controllll...
opinions differ.. x marries u,v,w etc.. its a misconception.. its like seein slumdog millionaire n thinking that whole of india is filled with riots, brothels n beggars.. marriages r in fact stable here once they get goin.. as u say during adolescence people here date a lot - but there r american people whom i know don even go out together at night.. ya they r 10%.. u know - statistics say that in inidia that there r less than 5% virgins after 20 (male n female included obviously :))!!! also dating is a part of culture here.. families tend to understand each other thro dating.. in d rest - 80% tend to get d "opinions" from their parents. they respect their word. marriages are not stable in this country is a myth!!! and d baddest part is that acc to a recent survey - abt 50% of marriages in the upper middle class (u know how this class was formed) break up in India.. due to mutivarious reasons.. but d common thing they quote is - "clash of interests".. funny aint it??? so marriages r not abt culture.. its abt d people who get married.. its all abt human ego n not even a single percent related to d country in which v r grown, born or immigrate..
@someone here: yes Americans say hi to u even tho they dono u. When u enter into d shop, when u talk to a call center, when u step into a restaurant - people shout - "hello how are you doin today". believe me not even a single soul means that.. in India.. if someone comes n asks u how r u - he means every word of it.. thats d difference.. here its all show off (i am talkin abt d person whom u dono n still asks how r u!!!).. again there is another practical n humorous viewpoint.. if u say hi to people u meet in india.. u may get tired b4 takin 10 steps.. America u hardly meet d human race on road.. so people r delighted to c humans "walkin" on road unlike our country.. ha ha..
@someone else here: in bombay - which supports 10% of indian population - more than probably whole of america put together.. they follow "q" system. its not abt d place.. its abt discipline..
also abt ABCDs pl don use this term anymore (tomorrow ur son mabbe born here).. they r not confused.. but poor guys made to b confused.. for d sake of money or whatever people from india - ur relatives, my relatives n our frnz came n settled here.. again for various reasons particularly from d opp sex (90%) v r made to stay here. kids roll out.. and v brand them abcds.. poor guys.. what was their mistake in this??? hope u know that d people in our group who brand the american born as abcds r gonna settle here.. probably u might settle here.. who knows???
so its all abt ur way of viewing.. v r livin in a small world filled with few billion people.. don spend d time branding n judgin people - thats what i tell me.. and it has worked out well for me.. u may try it n tell me d result.. and no matter what.. if u know how to get a frnd u ll get one in all colors from all backgrounds.. love n friendship breaks every shackle in this world!!!
"Sorgame enralum athu namma oorai pola varumaa".. dude what a baseless comment !!! R U from 1940s when all these patriotic slogans were in their high pitch for independence ???? get real buddy.. U, me, your friends my relatives, the average person on the road.. EVERYONE IS BLOODY SELFISH. Everyone wants their life to be a little more easy, a little more comfortable.. Thats the basic underlying attitude when we study more when we ask for more salary when we buy a new shirt when we look for a better car even when we love or marry ! Gita's phrases on self-less performance of duty is just a mith...
Let me prove my point by a head-to-head comparison between my life in 3 places in US for around 2 years to 25 years in 10 places in India. 1. Professionally i work from 9 to 4 that too with the comfort of working from home. In india I had to toil from 9 to 11pm and then wait for the bloody cab which reaches home at 1am. 2. Salary wise i earn 10 times which really changes my lifestyle. now that Iam back in India, its really surprising to see that the MRP matches neck to neck with $$ in US. how am i supposed to live with such steeply priced commodities??? 3. Personally i can really see that there is a great development in one's personality when we work in american culture. My weekends here are far more enjoyable with the countless options available compared to choosing between beasant nagar beach and satyam cinemas! I can afford luxuries in my life that never existed in india. 4. Family-wise in india, there is no romance left in any relationship because the waterbills, the climate, roadrage, the neighbour next door and the autowala pisses u off everyday to an extent that u r left with nothing but anger in bed. No surprise that indian couples grow so close when they move west. 5. Now for the X-Y-Z marriage theory of urs.. Tell me something bro.. an average yankee boy will consider u worse than crap if u r a 26 year old virgin.. shud u care??? NOO 'cos that is ur choice ur culture.. Just like that, why shud u be bothered if he sleeps with his sister??? its his country his culture his choice !!! As long as it doesnt affect u directly, get a grip n get going.. Also where else in this world wud u see this obession for virginity and monogamy except in india and the middle east ????? 6. Now about ur blood-boiling for 'apna vathan'... Tell me what an average indian does to make his country better??? break road rules, jump queues, accept bribes, adulterate, fake mark sheets etc etc. Every indian has a part in making his country a worse place to live.. So can we do anything about it? Yes..spend 200Rs watch RangDeBasanti and feel patriotic..thats it.. SO GET REAL and accept the fact. Your life of 70 short years is what the whole mess is about.. u can choose to live it happily in whichever way is satisfactory for u.. If India is that swargam for u.. fine! But there is no point in bashing someone who thinks otherwise.. bye buddy
@sathya
Its been an year since I wrote that blog. I was surprised to see the replies. Yes satya, as you said, dating is a part of their culture….I am just saying, don’t glorify them, they are not saints. Praise them, its not a mistake, but don’t praise them comparing “this is not how it happens in India”…..just keep in mind, that it is that place, the place you compare has brought you here……you accept it or not, this economy is upon immigrants…….I accept my mistake on the marriage incident….that was very rude….but I still think that step father and step son are pretty common her…aren’t they?
Regarding ABCD’s …….. don’t brand others…don’t ever….not everyone thinks and acts in the samel predictable way…….my son might be born here…….Crude probability says that it has 50% chance of happening….but if you take factors of what I think then it might differ…..I am not saying ABCD are ill creatures, I am just saying that they don’t depict what we are…I am not what they show to be I am….They mocked about how punjabi’s speak and how tamil names are so difficult to pronounce…I might sound to be idiotic…..but I take much pride in my country and in my land that it makes me feel bad when someone who doesn’t belong to my country(I am pretty tuff on this) talks ill about me…….I take pride in what I am
Its everyone’s personal choice to settle here and its everyone personal choice to bring their kid up in the way they want…………My point is……once you are a U.S citizen….dont try to be Indian….you shud realize that you are not
@ Praveen
I cannot counter your arguments in any way as there are picture perfect…….you had blasted it on the board…I believe that 90% of the people here think so……its all what you want……I am here for an year now and even I can see what you say….i can see that I can lead a peaceful life here, I can see that work culture is much better here….i can see that I can afford more luxuries here……the problem is I am not happy……. For an ideal person, as you said, yes, he should be lured to these places…….we complain a lot don’t we, we complain a lot about ourselves…we complain that we don’t have everything in India, we don’t realize that we can change it…we don’t realize that we are making someone else’s economy better…..its your choice….you can believe in the change as barrack obama says or you can just crib like everyone else in this world and make ur choices look better by pointing out the fallacies we have in India.
@Praveen,
Awesome Boss!!!
Everything's wrong here and since you are the only right person ( by being selfish) you move on to more greener pastures...Do you know why animals don't have Nationalities???
And average person...wats that.???
Just because you are selfish and feel that all people you know are selfish you don't get the right to label the rest of us that way...Do you know ab't the hundreds of volunteer organizations running here. Millions of youth working helping in every possible way they can for the life of people whom they are not related to in any way. And heard ab't those who die for the "country"....I can go on and on...But all I expect from someone who commenetd as you did is to shrug it off a preaching...Thats wat some people do when shown the mirror...they only end up only blaming the mirror as Ugly, whereas............
comment from Priya
@Sathya: Love your comment, its amazing, and its makes 100% sense.
@Praveen: Fact, well written :) Definitely, everybody is bloody selfish..i wholeheartedly agree with you.. Comfort is the way of life now for most.. Noone wants to accept it, but yes, everyone is selfish..But some ppl dont accept...
@Balamurugan: If "animals" get out of india and cum to the USA ( in search of greener pastures), dont you think India should get better and better with patriotic "people" ( not animals) and helpful youth staying back there? Well, it will , and be happy for that!
What I really dont understand is, when you ( not the blog writer, everyone in general) have so much patriotism, why cant you slog and study in the prestigious institutions in india, IIT, IIM, IISc etc, why slog your ass off and take 1000's of $ of loans and undergo so much emotional stress seeing people comment about your country and your south indian name and study here? Are you going to tell me that the education system is awesome? Then you are also in a way, an animal who has come in search of a greener pasture..
Its easy to speak about everything, but it makes a lot of difference when you do something to initiate a change and then speak about it. Until then, RDB will be just an entertainer and will not motivate anybody.
And until we stop commenting about the way ABCD's or whosoever dress up and about our own people using the language of USA ( which is purely their personal wish), noone is going to stop commenting about us too. And if I am not wrong, there's much more of the commenting going on in India. Tell me how many girls can wear shorts during summer in India without being looked at below their knee? Its the person, not the country, anyday.
I don't wish to reveal my identity and I will be glad if there's no debate saying that I dont have the guts to show myself out. I just don't prefer it and if you think I dont have the guts, go ahead.
I just got it through mail...no idea why it is not appearing on the post
@ Priya,
Was it selective reading or selective answering???
I don't consider all those who migrate to "greener pastures" as 'animals' becuase a lot of them do it only to be in a better position to give much more back to their "Motherland". Its only those who forget where they belong to, get rid of the "Indian" passport and the "tag", and curse the nation and its people for its mess, forgetting or rather pretending to forget that they're pretty much part of the mess. The difference being, we here are trying to clean it. And you are trying to distance yourself from it. What I don't understand is how does running away from your responsibility place you on a higher pedestal and give you the right to abuse people who ,not so long ago, where your own...? the whole purpose of criticism should be constructive , when it turns to name calling its called abuse.
You say "Its easy to say....."...Have you ever tried to do something???? I know a lot of people who are, to extents we can only imagine. And thats exactly why I can't "accept" that "everybody is selfish"....I had already mentioned this in my last post...I don't feel ashamed to be patriotic...as that would be disloyal to the notion of Nationhood for which so many of our brave soldiers lay their lives....Each of them have their personal lives...they must be aspiring for comfort as much as we do....but they place something else above all this...The bottomline..its all about your priorities...
And about those who go to study abroad, I don't understand how that's a sin,...Seats here get filled and those who can't match up to the level of competition here, give easier exams to study abroad. Its a compulsion and in no way degrades my Nation. If the seats here vere vacant and still there were people taking loans to study abroad, I would agree its a shame...But not now...And yes..more such instituions need to be here...A lot needs to be done..but it can't be done when you're busy poiting fingers from outside..it'll only happen if you join hands and enter the system here.
@ priya…….
First thing….I (the author) is the person who is studying M.S in U.S….Bala is working in India….dont generalize people on their activities…..
“If "animals" get out of india and cum to the USA ( in search of greener pastures), dont you think India should get better and better with patriotic "people" ( not animals) and helpful youth staying back there? Well, it will , and be happy for that!”
There is a difference in priorites…It doesn’t mean animals get out of india…we are human beings….we have ideals……we are not like those #$#$ in the jungle which settles in the better place…we have sixth sense…we feel, we realize…….i am not trying to be offensive…what if every mom starts thinking that bringing up their kid is a pain….that eventhough you bring up a kid, it will move for greener pastures….why should I bring him up….what if every mom becomes selfish ….we are selfish…aren’t we…..we expect someone to be selfless towards us…why……we think that it is her duty…..we think that she should take care of us……same applies with the country…I don’t know about you, but I do have an emotional attachment with the country….i think….by going back there…working there……..staying there…doing some charity, I can atleast make life of two people better……….if u always keep on asking the question “if you people are so radical, why india is not changing”….india will change….i believe it will…even if doesn’t I definetly wont be mourning india is not changing….
@ my M.S……….i remember u posting the first comment on this blog…I deleted your e-mail and coudnt restore your comment. I never said that I am the selfless guy in the world…..everybody is selfish…everybody thinks of their own cause…….. I am not saying that I am here because of the awesome education system…Life is a journey….u should know and see a lot of things………but you are not just your life….there are people around yo….Selfishness is the only reason we are still an developing country……..I don’t rant at people who settle here….I don’t rant at people who are bloody realistic (I hate it)as you say….I am different….if you cant be different and if you are going to be just another idiotic person who just mouths about the fallacies…..you better shut up and move off……….Dont make others fall into the myth that you have built around yourselves….some people tend to come out of it….u don’t need to encourage them, but you can do a lot of good by being silent
@ABCD….i am not sure why this is courting so much controversy…….I didnt say that u shud never be a ABCD…I didn’t say that u shouldn’t come here…I didn’t say that “Don’t be selfless”…..I just said “You are not Indians”…You don’t represent us…..They don’t represent me……They will never….They cannot
Karthik,
Relaxxxxxxxx....
I read this somewhere ..suits this thread perfectly...
"Everybody is self-centered, its the radius that matters".
Sums up everything ...I believe.
@ priya
i dont mind about your identity.....even if you my own brother or sister, i dont mind.......everybody has their own opinions...........everybody is a human being with different virtues
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